Thursday, February 5, 2015

Words undress you

Ever thought about the power of  spoken / written words ?

What you speak and  how you speak gives away your most secret inner self .
Just like friends do.
Remember "A man is known by the company he keeps "

Body language has become an important tool in making personality assessment these days. The language of silence may also be included as an extension one's body language .
But still one cannot deny or even ignore the message conveyed through spoken words.
Body language and  the language of silence is pretty much guess work . Keen and intelligent observers do study gestures and  facial expressions with great attention, and then give their interpretations
But  after a thorough critical analysis what they conclude is  at the end of the day their personal perception .

I read  a lot of Urdu and Hindi poetry  and remember reading this very profound couplet a little while ago :
"(Lafz) kehney waalon ka kuchh nahi jataa
(Lafz ) seh-ney waaley kamaal kartey hain "

Another one that is again unforgettable is:
"Wo ek baat bahot talkh kahi thi uss ne
Baat to yaad nahi yaad hai lehja uss ka"

It is said that one must never speak when angry or tense , the logic being a mind preoccupied with anger and tension is usually not in the right state of taking decisions and judging situations sensibly., which is obvious .
This advice is for the speaker of course.
But the listener is advised to pay attention to people when they speak in anger because it is said that like a drunkard who does not know what he is doing , an angry person usually  pours out his/her heart's inner most emotions in that state of mind , and hence he talks without any mask or pretense , therefore one can conclude that in a fit of anger one usually lashes out all the emotions that they may have kept subdued for better reasons.

Written words become even more authentic expressions of one's mind and heart . It is said that words once spoken cannot be taken back , but they may be forgotten or at times misunderstood too , however the written word is an undisputed  proof of one's thought process.

These days we are seeing large scale degradation in the values and morals including the language that is being used all around , and knowingly or unknowing being encouraged by various kinds of  media. Obscenity and  rudeness seems to gaining acceptance even  in educated and seemingly cultured homes . Civility , respectfuless  and decency  are becoming extinct in the present social set up .
It is therefore worthwhile to recall that sensuousness of the  body and language is not enhanced by nudity or crassness . In fact  whoever advised to "never under estimate the seductive power of a decent vocabulary "  could not have said it more wisely and correctly.

In the conclusive analysis of behaviour  itt all come down to how someone made you feel through their word , action and attitude and since one's language plays an important part in what  people feel about you  , it is always better to choose your words CAREFULLY ,  RESPECTFULLY and with a HUMANE heart .

6 comments:

Asiya Rao said...

Reminded me of this poem....

Sticks and stones can break my bones
But words can also hurt me.
Stones and sticks break only skin
while words are ghosts that haunt me.............

Asiya Rao said...
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Asiya Rao said...

Reminded me of this poem....

Sticks and stones can break my bones
But words can also hurt me.
Stones and sticks break only skin
while words are ghosts that haunt me.............

Saeedakhtar said...

Very nicely written.

chitrita chatterjee said...

Bahut khub... There are times I speak to myself...whn I want to say things I cannot share with anyone... I see a few of those sentiments echoed here...thanks for sharing a bit of yourself here... :)

Rupam Kumar said...

Wah......what a deep study n thinking of words spoken n written......always a pleasure to go through your feelings n experiences Zohra....!!