Friday, April 6, 2012

Life moves on

With technology entering every space of our life in the past few years the world has become a really small place. The way we eat, work, study, shop, socialise, entertain, all of it and more has changed, and changed really fast.
The advent of an infinite number of social networking sites and cell phones has revolutionised the way we meet and interact with people and make friends. It also means that relationships are not the same now. Is it any wonder then that in the new scenario love and relationship have also been redefined.

But as we become more literate and theoratically more knowledgeable about what love really is and what an ideal relationship should be like, emotions and feelings seem to have lost their depth,  becoming hilariously pathetic and superficial. So much so that at times their true meaning (if there ever was any) has been totally distorted.

Everyday one receives SMSes defining love and relationship and everyday users on public networking sites try to outdo one another with similar messages and posts.

"Relationship is like Taj Mahal. Everyone sees how beautiful it is, but no one realises how difficult it was to build"

"We love because it is the only true adventure"

"Love is friendship set on fire"

"May be love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it"

"Relationship is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain attached."

"Love is the master key that opens the gates to happiness"

"All relations in the world are like insurance policy....We have to pay the premium of love and care to keep it going"

And this one I got yesterday in Hindi asks a important one...
"Jeevan ka sab se bada nuqsaan tab hota hai jab hum jeevit hotey hain, lekin hamare rishtey marr jaatey hain...parr ye rishtey martey kyon hain....?"

Sometime back a friend had sent me an SMS which said "A relationship never dies naturally. It is always murdered"
And if this is true, then the question is who is the murderer?

Losses are always emotionally disturbing. Good-byes can be killing. But like time, relationships also see changes as they grow (or stagnate) with the passage of days, months and years. Time is never the same. Circumstances are never the same. But a rock-solid relationship built on mutual trust and patience usually sails through rough waters as diligently as it does when the weather is good and the sailing is smooth.

However such relationships are few and built reciprocally over a period of time. And it is immaterial if such a relationship is virtual or real. What matters is understanding and nurturing, in the absence of which even an apparently healthy-looking relationship may become weak and sick. And then it will not be surprising if it succumbs to neglect and suffer a humiliating death.

I think it would save a lot of misery if one can recognise the decay when it sets in and try to reverse the process. But if that does not work, then a whole lot of parting pain can be avoided if people move on with dignity, because if someone makes you miserable more than they make you happy, it does not matter how much you love them, you need to let them go.
One must realise that going to get a new start is by no means easy, but it is the right thing to do when a story has ended.
And of course it does give a lot of comfort to know that  even if a relationship is "murdered" (as mentioned above),  the murderer has to still live with it  because relation itself never rises from the ashes like the legendary Phoenix, and manifests itself in another , may be even better form.

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